I was searching through some papers this week and came across the letter I wrote several years ago when I shared my desire to resign my position in my church. I think the story I wrote is something we all should recognize.
One of my reasons for retiring was to spend more time with my grandchildren. In the letter, I wrote the true story of being on a playground with my three or four-year-old twin grandchildren, a boy and a girl. As soon as I read the first part of the letter I remembered the day distinctly. The day was beautiful. The sun was warm, the sky was blue and my grandkids were having a wonderful time on the swings and slides.
My phone rang and I hesitated at first to answer the phone. My position at church was to visit our congregation members regularly, particularly folks who were having a difficult time in their life. I looked at the phone number, but did not know who it was. Our church family was in the midst of many challenging life changes such as losses of family members.
I took the call. Sure enough, it was a woman I had been speaking within the past few weeks as her mother was dealing with a cancer diagnosis. The call was to share with me this day’s tragic experience with her mother.
As I listened to the young woman, I looked up toward the twins. The boy was headed my way. If you did not know Logan you would think he never walked anywhere…he ran! I closed the telephone call sharing my sorrow with the woman who thanked me for listening. Logan gave me a leg hug and looked at my face. He saw something. Perhaps I was looking more somber than usual. He asked me who was on the phone and I said it was a person from our church who wanted to talk to me about her mommy who was sick.
“Was she sad,” he asked.
“Yes, very much so,” I responded.
“Granddad, you should help her, he said.”
He was a sweaty mess but as serious as I had ever seen him. I paused and told him he was right. Earlier I was trying not to let this woman share her grief. Logan’s words brought me back to reality. I was given the gift of listening, and I was trying to dodge it. Little Logan’s face and words changed my mind.
“I’ll call her again tomorrow,” I told Logan as he turned and ran back to the sliding board.
These grandkids have taught me so much. From this point on, I listened to them very closely. Today, they are not even in double digits in age, but they sure are smart. I am thankful and so fortunate to have them teach me! We can and should take time with those in need of empathy. May you and those who help be At Peace!
So lovely!
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