“Life must be lived forward, but can only be understood backward.” Soren Kierkegaard When writing about grief and loss, I often refer to the work of my mentor, Dr. Alan Wolfelt. Alan developed The Six Reconciliation Needs of Mourners which I used regularly when speaking with the bereaved. Recently, I’ve been thinking about the importance of one… Continue reading Memories
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The Cold of the Pandemic
Will I Always Be this Cold? Where has this cold come from? “It comes from the death of your friend.” Will I always, from now on, be this cold? “No, it will diminish. But always it will be with you.” What is the reason for it? “Wasn’t your friendship always as beautiful as a flame?”… Continue reading The Cold of the Pandemic
What Just Happened?
About two years ago I attended the National Collegiate Athletic Association basketball championship with my daughter, an alumna of the champion, the University of Virginia. The Cavaliers won both very close tournament games, each with exciting and nearly unbelievable endings. Immediately after the final game, the young man sitting next to me gave me a… Continue reading What Just Happened?


