Next Tuesday, August 30 is National Grief Awareness Day. I was reminded by my professional organization, the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC), that on that day we might (1): support a grieving friend and/or (2) engage in self-care on this day of appreciation and respect.
I had forgotten there is a day devoted to these efforts. But as we all know; these two objectives are impossible to complete in one day. Reconciling grief by acknowledging it and integrating it into one’s life takes time. Still, I like the idea of recognizing these two most important ideas leading to being At Peace.
Many of the blog posts I’ve written were intended to help people in the midst of the Coronavirus pandemic. Our country was probably one of the least prepared to understand and assist following the deaths of over 1.04 million people. We historically played dodge ball with death and grief, trying to turn from them in order to escape their pain. The past years have forced many of us into the realization that dodging grief does not lead to a healthy end.
I know a good portion of the people who have read these posts over the past twenty-one months. I am acquainted with their grief, and on this National Grief Awareness Day I will pay homage to their grief work and positive movement forward as they continue to love. I also know there are a few folks reading these words who care for and support those who struggle with grief. I salute their important work and encourage their self-care.
For those reading this who do not fit those categories, thank you for your interest in educating yourself regarding grief and loss. I wish you much success in companioning friends and acquaintances who need comfort and peace in their lives.
How do we “celebrate” on National Grief Awareness Day? I don’t see it as a celebration, but
as respecting what we all have been through… some, directly through loss, and others who help them along their path. Perhaps a phone call is appropriate next Tuesday to check-in and let them know you still care. You might consider the ancient art of writing a note. I have received many notes and letters from those I have stood beside and I treasure every one.
I should also add an approach I have written of frequently … prayer. I will pray for each of you, asking blessings for your journey. I will thank my God for the people with whom I have sat, saying nothing when words are insufficient, but presence is. For those of us who are a bit skittish about prayer, perhaps you might simply and quietly remember a loved one, or someone who helped you during a difficult time. Maybe you could write your thoughts in a journal? Amazing things may grace our lives when we silently touch our grief knowing we learned from it. On next Tuesday and for many days to come, may you be At Peace.
At Peace 